72% of gay men want to be in a monogamous relationship

Sep 9, 2019
Nathan Short
32
y.o.
Sydney, Australia
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Colourbeat

Survey Results (Aug 2019)

During the month of August the Wonder Wall featured 10 questions that were anonymously answered by gay men all around the world. Two separate but identical surveys were available: one for those under 35 and one for those 35 years and older. The results are presented here, followed by a brief discussion of the key findings.

Some of these figures may surprise you, while others may confirm an existing belief. The most important thing is that we think about what these numbers mean for us now and in the future. Feel free to share and discuss these figures with your friends by copying this page's URL.

10 new questions have now been released for September. While those in August were created by me from interviews with a variety of gay men (see: 'What I learned from interviewing 23 gay men'), the new questions are all based on user submissions.

Do you enjoy the music that is played in gay clubs most of the time?
YES
MANNERISMS
79%
FRIENDS
NO
21%
Do you want to be in a monogamous relationship?
YES
72%
NO
28%
Where have you found most of the guys you go on dates with?
YES
GRINDR
42%
NO
TINDER
19%
Are you satisfied with the way your body looks?
YES
44%
NO
56%
Do you suffer from a clinically diagnosed mental illness (e.g. depression, anxiety)
YES
38%
NO
62%
Have you ever felt shame associated with the act of anal sex?
YES
43%
NO
57%
Do you believe that your homosexuality and your masculinity are related in any way?
YES
46%
NO
54%
Would you feel comfortable hitting on a guy if you didn’t know if he was gay?
YES
36%
NO
64%
Do older gay men support younger gay men?
YES
62%
NO
38%
Do you believe that parades like Mardi Gras in Sydney and Pride events globally accurately represent the gay community?
YES
37%
NO
63%
BACK
Do you enjoy the music that is played in gay clubs most of the time?
YES
MANNERISMS
63%
NO
FRIENDS
37%
Do you want to be in a monogamous relationship?
YES
70%
NO
30%
Where have you found most of the guys you go on dates with?
GRINDR
Yes
36%
OTHER
No
31%
Are you satisfied with the way your body looks?
Yes
40%
No
60%
Do you suffer from a clinically diagnosed mental illness (e.g. depression, anxiety)
Yes
36%
No
64%
Have you ever felt shame associated with the act of anal sex?
Yes
37%
No
63%
Do you believe that your homosexuality and your masculinity are related in any way?
Yes
33%
No
67%
Would you feel comfortable hitting on a guy if you didn’t know if he was gay?
Yes
29%
No
71%
Do older gay men support younger gay men?
Yes
67%
No
33%
Do you believe that parades like Mardi Gras in Sydney and Pride events globally accurately represent the gay community?
Yes
30%
No
70%
BACK

Discussion

Cross-generationally all figures were nearly identical except for Q1 (Do you enjoy the music that is played in gay clubs most of the time?) and Q7 (Do you believe that your homosexuality and your masculinity are related in any way?). While 79% of gay men surveyed under the age of 35 enjoyed the music in gay clubs most of the time, a lesser 63% of gay men over 35 felt the same. Younger gay guys might enjoy the music more because of a generational difference in music taste, with a heavier, darker sound slowly making its way into gay clubs.

46% of gay men under 35 believe that their homosexuality and masculinity are related, while only 33% of gay men over 35 believe the same. Perhaps this could be explained by a generational difference in the idea of masculinity, or that younger gay men are less apprehensive to associate femininity with being gay.

Other significant figures include:

References

Nathan Short
32
y.o.
Sydney, Australia
CONTACT

Nathan helps people to express themselves at home, at school, and in the workplace, all around the world. He's passionate about thinking, and engages in it regularly. He's not overly fond of writing in the third person though. It's weird. Connect with him on Facebook to continue the conversation, make a video at colourbeat.com, or even share a dance with him at movewithcolour.com!

What I learned...
  1. There appears to be very little difference in the beliefs and issues of younger and older gay men.

  2. The majority of gay men would like to be in a monogamous relationship.

  3. The different sample sizes might suggest that older gay men aren't as supportive of this project as younger gay men (needs further research).

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